(my friend sent me this article from Askmen, i think its good advice)
Whether you've been single for a while, were recently dumped, or decided to kick your ex to the curb, there are many advantages to flying solo. Not to worry, you won't be bored; here are some tips on what you should do with your newfound time.
10. Work out
Everyone knows that we tend to get lazy when we have someone. Some men shave less often, while some women dress less sexy. These may be stereotypes, but surely you agree. If this is so, then why not take advantage of your newfound single status and hit the gym? For one, you will get in shape and feel better about yourself, and second, who knows, you may meet someone that catches your eye while on the treadmill.
9. Seize the moment
I know many will blast me here, but you need to get it all out of your system, especially if she did the dumping. Is there a female friend you always wanted to get to know better? Well, get to know her. Is there a spot you wanted to hit? Take a trip. Did you want to try a new
haircut or style? Now is the time. Whatever you do, be careful, but go all out. Nothing sucks more than missed opportunities.
8. Be badI am not going to urge anyone to have sex in a church, slap a priest, cause harm to others, or any such deviant practice (well, the first one may be cool...), but do things that will make you feel young and slightly carefree. While some men play the good boy next to their bad girlfriend, most men are usually forced to tame up a bit when they are taken, so when you are single, go crazy; it's debauchery time.
7. Volunteer
We are always caught up in our own world, rarely seeing beyond the tip of our noses. One great way to open one's blinders is to help others. Not only will you meet interesting people, but you'll also get some perspective into your life and will likely end up cherishing what you have even more.
6. See your friends
My friends make fun of me for going out often... very often. They tease me even more when I meet someone interesting because my focus changes -- drastically. While this is slightly normal, I do urge all men to never forget the boys; the boys will be there for you when (and if) things end, but she may not. So if you happen to be single, then make sure that you enjoy your friends' company and always show them your gratitude.
5. See your family
One of my personal concerns is not seeing my family nearly as often, or as much, as I should and desire. Reasons range from work and social life to other matters, so if you happen to free up some time after saying goodbye to the ex, then take the opportunity to visit the folks, take out the siblings and even say "hey" to the grandparents.
4. Take a vacation
While it is indeed great to take a trip with a loved one, it may be twice as good to take a trip with friends or even by yourself. There is no better way to find yourself, seek new avenues and clear your head. So leave the pictures of the ex at home and head out for some adventure.
3. Improve yourself
This is an extension of working out, but it entails improving one's diet, getting rid of nasty habits, finding your dream job, and doing what you have always set out to do but never had the chance to. I know, easier said than done but trust me, nothing will make you forget what's-her-name faster.
2. Explore a new world
So you limit yourself to Sports Illustrated , macaroni and cheese, and beer? Why don't you try something else for a change? No, I am not encouraging you to read Henry David Thoreau's Walden (although it is a good read), but you should do something new and different. Trust me, you will thank me for it.
1. Look ahead
Yes, you should live in the moment, take the plunge and seize the opportunities. But one must also ask where they came from to know where they are going. No one needs a 25-year plan laid out; I don't know where I'll be in 25 days . But if you wish to attain your goals, then you need some sense of direction.
2 comments:
LMAO. why askmen.com?
i supposed this doesnt just apply to guys only.
shhh... you know what, now i totally understand why me with the new haircut, piercings, smoke, more wild, more outgoing, shopaholic. truly understands more about life.
what's more, looking ahead!!!!
all in all this is the new me :D LOL
living example for u. enjoy life dom!
xoxo
You forgot to mention Eat Breathe and Sleep on Facebook =S
Immerse yourself in the pleasure of singledom (single-dom, gedit gedit gedit???) and go do any of the above LA =P =P =P
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